I’ve praised John Sentamu, the Church of England Archbishop of York, in the past for his strong stances on racial equality and his opposition to war and injustice around the world. However, today his comments on same-sex marriage induced in me a profound feeling of sadness and anger; it is hard to see someone whom I previously respected espousing irrational prejudices of this kind.
But the Archbishop told the Telegraph that it was not the role of government to “gift” the institution of marriage to anyone.
“I don’t think it is the role of the state to define what marriage is.
“It is set in tradition and history and you can’t just (change it) overnight, no matter how powerful you are.
“We’ve seen dictators do it, by the way, in different contexts and I don’t want to redefine very clear social structures that have been in existence for a long time and then overnight the state believes it could go in a particular way.”
Dr Sentamu pointed out that bishops in the House of Lords did not seek to obstruct the introduction of civil partnerships between same-sex couples in 2004.
He said the Church also had no opposition to plans to allow civil partnership ceremonies to take place in places of worship, if agreed by the religious denomination in question.
But Dr Sentamu said the Church would not stand idly by if the government sought to allow same-sex marriages to be on a par with heterosexual ones.
He said: “If you genuinely would like the registration of civil partnerships to happen in a more general way, most people will say they can see the drift. But if you begin to call those marriage, you’re trying to change the English language.
“That does not mean you diminish, condemn, criticise, patronise any same-sex relationships because that is not what the debate is about,” added Dr Sentamu.
Dr Sentamu is essentially telling every gay and lesbian couple in the country – including thousands of gay and lesbian Christian couples – that their relationships are second-class, that their love is not of equal standing to that of heterosexuals, and that they do not deserve the term “marriage”. He is telling same-sex couples who have been in loving, faithful relationships for years or decades that their love should not be affirmed, recognized or celebrated in the same way that we affirm and celebrate the love of opposite-sex couples.
If Dr Sentamu were saying merely that his own conscience will not permit him to perform same-sex marriages, or that he does not think the Anglican Church should perform or recognize such marriages, I would accept that he has the right to make that choice, as wrong and as prejudiced as I believe it to be: I do not think the state should be in the business of regulating religious doctrine, nor of forcing religious leaders or bodies into violating their principles. But he is going much further than this. He is arguing that the general civil law, the law which applies to Anglicans and non-Anglicans alike, should deny the word “marriage” to same-sex couples. He is arguing that his personal moral position on the meaning of the word “marriage” should be imposed by legal fiat on the entire population, including people of other faiths and of none, many of whom disagree vehemently with his position on the issue.
To say that it is not the role of the state to define marriage is meaningless rhetoric: the state does define marriage, and, for as long as marriage is a legally-recognized relationship creating legal rights and obligations for the parties, it must continue to do so. There is no reason why the civil law should not accord the same recognition to same-sex couples in committed and loving relationships – including the right to be married, and to use the term “marriage” – that it already accords to their opposite-sex counterparts. This has no implications for the freedom of conscience of religious people; religious denominations remain free to make their own decisions about which marriages they will and will not perform, and to adopt a definition of marriage which differs from that of the civil law. (As some already do; the Catholic Church does not recognize civil divorces, for instance, nor does it conduct marriages for divorced persons who have not obtained an annulment of their previous marriage under Catholic canon law.) Religious denominations are free to act according to their own consciences; but the doctrine of certain religious sects should not be forced on everyone through the medium of the civil law.
His argument from “tradition” is likewise meaningless. Marriage is and has always been an evolving institution, and many of the prejudiced “traditions” once associated with it have, thankfully, long since been discarded. Not so very long ago, for example, it was considered unthinkable and contrary to “tradition” in many places for people of different races to be allowed to marry; here in the United States, many states continued to prohibit “miscegenation”, intermarriage between people of different races, until the Supreme Court’s landmark 1967 decision in Loving v. Virginia, and plenty of people defended such laws on religious grounds by cherry-picking and distorting verses of Scripture. (Sadly, a few fringe religious leaders still adhere to this position today.) “Tradition” once did not permit interfaith marriages either, and it was not so long ago that a Catholic marrying a Protestant, or a Christian marrying a Jew, was widely considered unacceptable by both communities. Likewise, “traditional” marriage in many societies once entailed the total legal and social subordination of a wife to her husband: in England, married women were long denied the right to own property in their own name, and the position at common law until 1991 was that it was not a crime for a man to rape his wife. We have, thankfully, abandoned these harmful traditions in modern society: because an appeal to “tradition” is never a sufficient defence of prejudice or injustice. Just as there is no good reason why two people who love one another should be denied the right to marry on the basis of their skin colour or their religion, so too there is no good reason why that right should be denied on the basis of their sex or gender identity. And to compare the struggle for marriage equality to the actions of dictators, as Dr Sentamu does, is beneath contempt – and he, of all people, coming from a country whose people have suffered under the yoke of a succession of dictators, ought to know better than to make this kind of cheap comparison.
To observe that he supports civil partnerships is not an excuse. Denying the word “marriage” to gay and lesbian couples, and arrogating that term exclusively to heterosexuals, is an act of bigotry: it symbolically relegates gay and lesbian couples to a second-class status, telling them that their love and commitment to one another is less worthy of celebration and affirmation than that of heterosexual couples. To impose this verbal stigma on same-sex couples is an indefensible position. It has no reasoned justification. It is not just heterosexual couples who love one another; it is not just heterosexual couples who raise children together. Plenty of gay and lesbian couples raise children in a kind, stable and loving family environment; and as I observed in a recent post, the dogmatic trope that “children need a mother and a father” is without any foundation in the evidence. (I would, once again, urge everyone to watch this video.) And Dr Sentamu’s stance is hurtful, especially coming from someone for whom I previously had great respect. As a bisexual person, I feel that a part of my identity is being stigmatized by his words; as a friend to many in the LGBT community, I feel that my friends’ lives and relationships are being devalued and relegated to a status of symbolic inferiority.
I respect Dr Sentamu’s work for racial equality and peace, and I agree with him on those issues. But that does not mean that I can overlook or excuse his homophobic rhetoric. It is not enough to stand in solidarity with some oppressed groups while attacking others. The fight for social justice requires that we work equally for racial equality, for gender equality, for economic equality and an end to poverty, for immigrant equality, and for lesbian, gay and transgender equality. Many of Dr Sentamu’s fellow religious leaders recognize this: many religious communities, including the Quakers, the Unitarian Universalists, the Metropolitan Community Church and the United Church of Christ, have made a positive commitment to support LGBT equality. So too did Coretta Scott King, widow of Martin Luther King and a person of deep faith and courage. So too have many Anglican and Episcopalian clergy and laypeople from across the Anglican Communion.
The archbishop said: “The Church has always stood out – Jesus actually was the odd man out. I’d rather stick with Jesus than be popular because it looks odd.”
Like so many other hierarchs of the religious establishment before him, Dr Sentamu is here coopting the message of Jesus to serve established power and to reinforce established prejudice. Such an interpretation seems to me, on the basis of the Christian scriptures themselves, to be entirely unsupported. According to the Gospels, Jesus walked with those condemned by the exclusionary social norms of the society in which he lived. He did not make common cause with the Pharisees, the religious conservatives of their day, but with those who were outcast, whose lives and identities were stigmatized as sinful. Jesus’ message is not one of support for blind adherence to tradition and prejudice, but one of love and compassion. Many progressive Christians today have recognized this, and work to promote LGBT equality both within their own faith and in wider society.
We know that the message of the Bible can be twisted to promote bigotry – as it was by those religious leaders in years past who used verses from Scripture to support slavery, racial segregation, and the disenfranchisement and subordination of women. But there have always also been religious leaders on the side of social justice: from the people of many faiths who marched with Martin Luther King in Birmingham and Selma, to those today who work for justice for immigrants, for racial minorities, for LGBT people and for the world’s oppressed. I hope that Dr Sentamu – who I believe to be fundamentally a decent and compassionate person – reconsiders his stance and chooses, with time, to stand on the side of love.